Relationships

Show Appreciation:  

Tell someone what you like about them today (without telling them what you don’t like).

Go Out On a Date:

Ask your sweetheart or significant other out on a date.  Yes, call them up as though it was the first time. Show up at the door, nicely dressed, with a small romantic gift.  Go someplace special.  Talk as though it was your first date.  Ask how they are, what’s new, and how they feel about this and that.

If you’ve been having some problems, ask them how their relationship is going with __(state your own name___). Just listen to what they say without your normal reaction, as you would be supportive of a best friend. Be sure not to defend or attack.  This can be a real eye opener, especially if communication has been missing, but it’s essential you handle this with great delicacy or you can do more damage than good.

Try not to allow the conversation to fall into the usual familiar patterns.  (It might help to let them know these ground rules before you start.)  If the game becomes tedious, ask how he/she felt about the whole thing and even how you might freshen things up in the future.

Use the Pathways:  

A complete list and explanation of the pathways appears under the menu selection “The Love Collection.”  Two of the Twelve pathways from the Handbook To Higher Consciousness are especially worth contemplating.

“I am perceiving everyone, including myself, as an awakening being who is here to claim his or her birthright to the higher consciousness planes of unconditional love and oneness.”  Think of those you consider somehow inferior … or superior. … or even of yourself.  You’re all OK and deserving of love, no matter how well you hide it at the moment.

“I feel with loving compassion the problems of others without getting caught up emotionally in their predicaments, which are offering them messages they need for their growth.”  Think of the drama majors happy to share their situations with good friends or anybody else who will listen.  Remember “…loving compassion…”  It isn’t a situation of detachment, just not one of absorption.

If you swim in their emotional pool, it’s harder to help them out. Sometimes people need to have suffered enough before they decide to make changes. How about you?

Compliment a Stranger: 

Relationships are everywhere you find people. The stranger on the street, the clerk in the store, the parking attendant.  It’s so easy to secretly judge someone’s appearance the instant you see them.  Instead, tell someone they look nice or that you like their smile.  Even if you don’t speak a compliment to everyone you see, look for good things in people and ways you could say something nice to each person