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by Gregg Sanderson<\/span><\/p>\n I am freeing myself from security, sensation, and power needs that make me try to forcefully control situations in my life and thus destroy my serenity and keep me from loving myself and others.<\/em><\/p>\n * * * * *<\/em><\/p>\n \u201cI love you. I need you\u201d say countless songs and novels to convey that romantic thought to unsuspecting innocents.<\/p>\n \u201cYou can\u2019t expect one person to fill all my needs.\u201d say rationalizing philanderers<\/p>\n \u201cYou aren\u2019t meeting each others\u2019 needs.\u201d say hordes of counselors whose relationships also don\u2019t work.<\/p>\n To be upset over what you don\u2019t have A need is anything you must have in order to be happy. It\u2019s an expression of lack. Every time you say \u201cI need\u2026\u201d you reinforce the unconscious attitude of \u201cI don\u2019t have\u2026\u201d\u00a0 Brandishing need is the same as celebrating poverty\u2014Physical, emotional, and Spiritual.\u00a0 You\u2019re just going to get more of it.<\/p>\n Of course, there are the physical needs to keep the body going, it\u2019s the mental needs that screw us up. Here are some ways to recognize when a need interferes with your happiness:<\/p>\n Needs come in three flavors\u2014security, sensation, and power.<\/p>\n Security\u00a0<\/strong>needs are deepest and most ingrained, and the dominant emotion is fear.\u00a0 You know you\u2019re centered in security when you\u2019re afraid\u2026 Very afraid.<\/p>\n Sensation\u00a0<\/strong>needs are exemplified by sex, drugs, and rock & Roll. Food, too. Anything that stimulates the senses. You know you\u2019re centered there when you are run by a craving. Frustration is a good indicator of a sensation need, although it also points to<\/p>\n Power<\/strong>\u00a0needs: Control, prestige, authority.\u00a0 The reaction from the power center is usually anger or some variety thereof.<\/p>\n In other words,\u00a0NEED IS THE ONLY CAUSE OF SUFFERING<\/strong>, and \u201cSuffering\u201d is any emotion that rejects what is here and now.<\/p>\n So what?<\/p>\n Points 1, 2, and 4 are obvious.\u00a0 Simple observation.\u00a0 But what about point 3?\u00a0 How in the world can you change those unconscious pictures?\u00a0 If I knew what they were, they wouldn\u2019t be unconscious.<\/p>\n There are several ways, and they all work.\u00a0 My choice is Living Love \u2013 The Science of Happiness, which presents Twelve \u201cPathways to Higher Consciousness.\u201d\u00a0 Whenever I suffer, it\u2019s because my \u201cpictures\u201d\u2026or \u201cprogramming\u201d is out of line with one or more of the Pathways.<\/p>\n When I want to stop suffering, I just have to change the program\u2026 Like a computer.\u00a0 Instead of \u201cThere\u2019s an app for that.\u201d, I know \u201cThere\u2019s a Pathway for that.\u201d<\/p>\n Of course, I need to be willing to change.\u00a0 The First Pathway is a good start.<\/p>\n Note:<\/p>\n \u201cI\u00a0am freeing myself.<\/em>..\u201d It\u2019s only me, nobody can do it for me.<\/p>\n \u201c\u2026that make me try..<\/em>..\u201d I only try, never succeed at controlling things.\u00a0 Do you?<\/p>\n \u201c...destroy my serenity..<\/em>.\u201d and how!\u00a0 It\u2019s called \u201cstress.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201c\u2026keep me from loving myself and others<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n The bottom line.\u00a0 Love is where it\u2019s at, and we have eleven more pathways to get there.\u00a0 Tune in next month.<\/p>\n The 12 Pathways are from the\u00a0Handbook To Higher Consciousness<\/em>\u00a0by Ken Keyes, Jr. \u00a0This is the beginning of a series of articles written by Gregg Sanderson, first published in Transformation Magazine about the 12 Pathways and how to apply them.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_blurb][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n<\/body>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" by Gregg Sanderson I am freeing myself from security, sensation, and power needs that make me try to forcefully control situations in my life and thus destroy my serenity and keep me from loving myself and others. * * * * * \u201cI love you. 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\n<\/em>Is to waste what you do have.<\/em>
\n<\/em>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u2013Ken Keyes<\/em><\/p>\n\n
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